Day 33 Do I Feel Lucky?

No, not today.

The universe, it seems, was conspiring against me making the 3:30 yoga class today, all because I tried to fit a trip to Chapters in first. I left three hours. Plenty, right? Half-hour there, half-hour back, an hour to browse, an hour to spare, no problem, right?

Wrong.

Every single road we tried was undergoing construction, maintenance, repair work, painting, or what could only be flag-person training exercises. On one bypass, I swear they’d closed a lane just because they had traffic cones they weren’t using. But we squeaked back into town with just barely enough time, I figured I could still make it.

Then there was a train. My husband wheeled the car around in a decisive move, determined to do his part. Okay, I still had a chance.

We got home, I whipped my gear together, screamed back down the mountain. Barring parking problems, I might get there before they got started. I could see the studio! Two more lights and I’d be there! My favourite parking spot was empty! Then, a timid left-turner in front of me screwed up my plan. I sat through the red, hearing the seconds tick down. Screeched into the coveted space, dashed to the door, pushed and… it was locked.

Missed it. By that much.

Fine, I can take a hint, I’ll go to the 5:30 class. And in the meantime, I’ll pass on a site I discovered yesterday. It’s called Fatherhood Channel and it’s run by something called the “PAIRS Foundation, Redefining Relationships.” In light of my posting on intimacy yesterday, I thought it was appropos.

It seems to be a mash-up of pop culture gossip and pop psychology with a slant towards celebrity marriages that are trying to be real, instead of, well, celebrity marriages. At least, that’s my first impression. (Caveat emptor: if it turns out to be a cult recruiting ring or something, well… oops.)

But what caught my eye was a list of questions they posted. Even the most seemingly stable relationships go through rough patches and this list is designed to illuminate trouble spots. Be warned; these aren’t easy questions. But I think they’re worth asking, if only of yourself.

1. What do I want that I am not getting?
2. What am I getting that I don’t want?
3. What am I giving that I don’t want to give?
4. What would I like to give to you if only things were better between us?
5. What am I getting that I do want?

Tough stuff, huh? What do you think would happen if you sat down with your significant other and talked about this? I mean, really talked. And really listened.

I think we could change our lives. So you’ve got to ask yourself one question: do I have the guts?  (Well, do ya, punk?)

I’d love to hear about it.